"I'm a Lady...Not a Bad B*tch..."


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Ladies, it doesn't take a MAN long to make up his mind...

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on July 16, 2014 at 1:00 AM Comments comments (4)



Crabs in a Barrel Mentality...

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on July 9, 2014 at 2:05 AM Comments comments (0)

I recently accepted a position at a local university to work in their Admissions department. This was a job that I'd been praying for for the past 2-3 years, and God finally answered my prayers. It was a drastic career change for me because I worked six years in the field of accounting...I held titles Accounts Payable and Payroll before I resigned due to a lack of fullfillment...and a multitude of other factors.

Most of those that learned about my new position were elated! They made me feel as if I hit the mega millions (lol). Those that are close to me knew that working in admissions was my MAIN career goal after I earned my Bachelor of Science degree.  Some that weren't aware of my career endeavor would ask me, "How did I manage to do that?" or "You don't even have an education degree...and they still hired you to work in admissions?" That crabs in a barrel mentality...boy, I tell you!!

What they fail to realize is that by making sly comments and being negative, they're blocking their own blessings. I don't have time for the negativity...instead I choose to focus my attention on acheiving my goals and becoming the best person I can be. To those that congratulated me on my new position, I'd like to extend a sincere thank you...your words of encouragement really mean a lot to me.

Remember to be fearless in achieving your goals!! There's always someone watching you, waiting for you to stumble and fall...don't give them the satisfaction!!!

God bless you all.

Until next time,

Jerra Mitchell, author "The Death of Bad Bitch"

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Love What's In The Mirror

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on March 16, 2014 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (0)

In today's society, it is easy to measure our beauty based on what is epitomized through social media outlets. All too often, we are bombarded with images of strinkingly beautiful women who appear to be 100% flawless...perfect skin, a toned, curvaceous body, long, flowing hair, perfect white teeth,...the list goes on.

Some women are so consumed by another woman's outwardly beauty that they fail to realize that true beauty generates from WITHIN. A woman can be as beautiful as can be, but if she has an ugly heart and personality,...well, her looks go right down the drain.

As women, we should embrace who we are, and not compare ourselves to others. Learn to LOVE the image that stares back at you in the mirror, instead of despising it. Most importantly, beautify yourself from the inside. Begin thinking positive thoughts, speaking positive words, smiling more, and treating others kindly. A truly beautiful and wise woman knows that her words and thoughts have dominion over her life. If you think you are inadequate, then you are simply inadequate. On the other hand, if you KNOW you are valuable, then you are valuable.

A woman's outward appearance is just that...her outward appearance. We can be fooled because we're so focused on her appearance, that we often do not seek to discover where a woman's heart is. Therefore, please do not allow your eyes to deceive you.

Ladies, learn to love the person staring back at you in the mirror and realize that yo are unique, beautiful, and incomparable.

Until next time,

Jerra Mitchell

Amazon best-selling author, "The Death of Bad Bitch"

[email protected]

Are Good Woman Simply Not Good Enough?

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on March 16, 2014 at 10:35 PM Comments comments (0)

Women, sometimes we question our worth based on the treatment of men we're dating, in a relationship with, or married to. Am I right? Well, I'm here to tell you...STOP IT!!! Start believing not only that you're a good woman, but a GREAT woman instead. An EXTRAORDINARY woman. A REMARKABLE woman. Do not allow the neglect, mistreatment, and/or abuse from a man diminish your worth. It will eventually tear you apart. Don't ever feel as if you have to compromise who you are in order to keep a man's attention. Ain't nobody got time for that!!

There will undoubtedly be other men to cross your path that will remind you of how exquisite and cherished you are. Have faith and believe that God will eventually send you the one He designed specifically for you. In the meantime, continue to work on yourself (workout, travel, explore different hobbies, enroll in college/graduate school, etc...) so that you'll have it "togetha" when the right one comes along. :)

To my good women, keep being who you are...and don't ever doubt whether or not you're good enough, because you are GREAT...and designed with a purpose.

Until next time,

Jerra Mitchell

Amazon best-selling author, "The Death of Bad Bitch"

[email protected]

Healthy & Flavorful Veggie Dish

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on March 2, 2014 at 9:45 PM Comments comments (0)

My Favorite Sauteed Veggie Dish..Eat Clean & Your Body & Appearance Will Thank You!!


1 Squash

1 Zuchinni

1 Medium Red & Green Pepper

1 Medium Sweet Onion

1 lb Sliced Bella Mushrooms

4 Baby Carrots

2 tbs Grapeseed Oil

Mrs. Dash (original), Celtic Sea Salt, Black Pepper, Garlic Powder, Cayanne Pepper (use as much or as little as you'd like)


Slice all vegatables and onion to your desired thickness. Pour grapeseed oil in large skillet over medium high heat. Place sliced baby carrots in skillet first, then squash, zuchinni, peppers, mushrooms, and onion. Toss veggies in grapeseed oil and seasoning for 10 mins until vegetables are cooked throughout. *Vegetables (except onion & mushroom) should still remain a crisp texture.*

Makes 4-6 servings

Enjoy! ;)

Charisma, Capability, & Consistency

Posted by Jerra Mitchell on March 2, 2014 at 7:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Charisma, Capability, & Consistency...these are three characteristics I look for the most when choosing a mate. Don't get me wrong, there are other traits that are important to me as well..such as honesty, independence, intelligence, spirituality, and ambition (just to name a few). However, the three C's listed above rank highest on my "checklist" when determining what I want from the opposite sex.

I list charisma first because it is important to me if others genuinely enjoy his company and can vouch that he's an outstanding person. I seek out opinions of trusted friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances to see if my potential guy measures up.

Secondly, capability is another important factor to me. After I listen to a few trusted opinions and get to know a guy for myself, I determine whether or not he is capable of loving me. Clearly, this does not happen overnight. However, through extensive conversations, observations, and spending time together, I am able to gauge his thoughts on love and relationships. Sadly, too many men have been hurt by women that mean them no good. In turn, this ultimately ruins their perception of love. It is so difficult to capture a man's heart when it is guarded so heavily due to situations that occured in the past. If I were in this predicament with someone I'm dating, I'd agree that he's not capable of loving me just yet and simply move on.

Lastly, consistency is HUGE for me. I expect a man to continue doing things he did to make me feel special in the beginning of our courtship. If he called to say, "Good morning" every now-and-then, those calls should keep coming. If he sends me positive, uplifting text messages throughout my day at work, I'd also like to keep receiving those. When I'm accustomed to spending my Saturday nights with you, don't flip the script without a prior warning first. Catch my drift? Consistency is one of the biggest turn-ons for me. I can't say that enough.

Well, there you have it. The 3 C's that spark (and keep) my interest in a man. Charisma. Capability. Consistency. :)

Until next time,

Jerra Mitchell, Author of "The Death of Bad Bitch"

[email protected]


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