|Posted by Jerra Mitchell on March 2, 2014 at 7:50 PM|
Charisma, Capability, & Consistency...these are three characteristics I look for the most when choosing a mate. Don't get me wrong, there are other traits that are important to me as well..such as honesty, independence, intelligence, spirituality, and ambition (just to name a few). However, the three C's listed above rank highest on my "checklist" when determining what I want from the opposite sex.
I list charisma first because it is important to me if others genuinely enjoy his company and can vouch that he's an outstanding person. I seek out opinions of trusted friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances to see if my potential guy measures up.
Secondly, capability is another important factor to me. After I listen to a few trusted opinions and get to know a guy for myself, I determine whether or not he is capable of loving me. Clearly, this does not happen overnight. However, through extensive conversations, observations, and spending time together, I am able to gauge his thoughts on love and relationships. Sadly, too many men have been hurt by women that mean them no good. In turn, this ultimately ruins their perception of love. It is so difficult to capture a man's heart when it is guarded so heavily due to situations that occured in the past. If I were in this predicament with someone I'm dating, I'd agree that he's not capable of loving me just yet and simply move on.
Lastly, consistency is HUGE for me. I expect a man to continue doing things he did to make me feel special in the beginning of our courtship. If he called to say, "Good morning" every now-and-then, those calls should keep coming. If he sends me positive, uplifting text messages throughout my day at work, I'd also like to keep receiving those. When I'm accustomed to spending my Saturday nights with you, don't flip the script without a prior warning first. Catch my drift? Consistency is one of the biggest turn-ons for me. I can't say that enough.
Well, there you have it. The 3 C's that spark (and keep) my interest in a man. Charisma. Capability. Consistency.
Until next time,
Jerra Mitchell, Author of "The Death of Bad Bitch"